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Stories in the life of Betty Brown Hammond…..truth sometimes seems like fiction.

“Everything Happens for a Reason?”

Now isn't that Random?

Now isn’t that Random?

(this is an old post, re-inserted due to deletion) “Everything happens for a reason?” Personally, I really do not believe this. (did you just GASP?!!!) I think it is one of those things people say to you when you tell them something about your life that undeniably sucks. I think those platitudes are just our mind’s way of trying to contextualize experiences that don’t fall inside our usual frameworks for making sense of the world. I believe that sometimes we all make pointless, useless choices…..and these are the times you make “lemonade out of lemons”. There are just too many really bad things out there for me to rationalize “everything happens for a reason”. I guess a lot of it comes down to situations like this: The mother of a severely handicapped child who has to listen to the well-meaning chirping’s of her friends who say “everything happens for a reason…(or) God only gives special children to special mothers who are strong” Yes, these people do not know what else to say…they are well-meaning. But this mother is thinking…. “there’s NO reason good enough that I should have to deal with this severe disability….and I don’t think it is part of a LARGER plan!”. Here is what I DO believe: We ALL have life experiences that make us STRONGER. We learn from these experiences. These experiences are what mold us. They help us better our choices for the future. I have no real problem believing in the randomness of life.  Or, that maybe SOME  things happen for a reason.  BUT….. This is only MY take, albeit a very unpopular view…..but it is what it is And I am what I am:-) I’m definitely not trying to change anyone’s thought process. Just give insight on another view.

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Photoshop Fun

We made a pic with our dogs a few years back and I used it for our Christmas card. It has since been one of my favorite pics. I have asked everyone if we could try this again but it never works out. So as a joke I decided to do a little photo-shopping. The pics actually turned out pretty good. I LOVE our Dog LOVING  Family!!!!

Really, if we were to retake this pic. Jackson could probably sit on Kane. He is bigger now, so is Henry. Katie and Stephen would be holding or sitting near Henry. Adam and Erin would have Jackson and a dog apiece. I would have Pinky. Dennis, the Boston duo. But six dogs, a baby, and six adults all sitting still even for a second???? Maybe we should wait for the new little guy to arrive. That would really update the pic:)
Postnote: When I posted this I never thought of it as dishonest. LOL. It started out as just fun with pictures. I don’t have a sinister plan to alter all our family pictures. However, I could insert myself in a few vacation photos here and there. Since I am the one taking the pics I don’t get in a lot of them….JK But seriously, this was all in fun.Doggie Christmas bigFamily All of usDoggie Christmas bigDCPS7

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Everybody wants ENERgy!

Working at a Grocery Store I have seen a lot of energy drinks being purchased by a wide variety of customers. The most common is the young male, between 16 and 30. Yesterday, I witnessed a lady buying one for her son who appeared to be around 6 or 7. I knew it was for him because he kept taking it out of the bagging area, causing an alert to the attendant, ME.  His mom purchased two packs of cigarettes and the energy drink, which was in a super large can. Then as they left the boy opened the drink and began to chug it. I was saddened that she would make the parental decision to  allow a child to have this kind of drink. I once read an article where a teen had drank two of these and it caused a heart attack. Surely one might harm a skinny child like that! Next parents will be putting that crap in baby bottles!  They already put Kool-aid, Tea, and Cola in there!  Aw, I see it all, though. The carts of soda, frozen pizza,  and ramen noodles., huge bags of sugary cereals.  Bought by the same people week after week. Seems like they would get tired of the same thing. But that is what the kids eat. There is no nutrition police. And I guess people get a kick out of  Honey Boo Boo killing a bladder busting size can of mountain dew. Eating crap has become the norm. It is out of the norm for someone to eat in a healthy way.  But seriously, I feel the mom I mentioned earlier should be investigated for child abuse. That is dangerous to give a child that type of drink. Especially a drink that large in proportion to the child’s size. Sure, she might have shared the drink with him. I sure hope so. In any case. The child should have enough energy without the aid of this product. There are other sources of tasty hydration. C’mon lady. REALLY!!!!

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Honky Tonk BadonkAdonk

I couldn’t get my pants to zip last Friday. I had lost a little weight and was trying a smaller size to see if I could fit them. I could have probably zipped them. But it would have taken a lot of sucking in and I would have to lie down on the bed to do it. So I decided to wear another pair. Frustrated I told myself I needed to get rid of that Honky Tonk Badonkadonk.  Just saying it placed it on my brain.

I had set myself up for a three-day EARWORM! An EARWORM is a catchy tune/song that continually repeats through a person’s mind after it is no longer playing.  Of all songs to have on repeat. I get  Honky Tonk Badonkadonk!  I have a four-hour shift monitoring those pesky robots.  Every person who shops at U-Scan at one point has their back toward me. So when the song would start to fade out.  It never failed, there would always be a giant rump at u-scan to send that tune right back. I couldn’t shake it.  The song was fairly constant during the first part of my shift. But became intermittent in the latter part. I kept this crazy Earworm for the weekend. It was not consistent. Otherwise I would have gone nuts.  I admire Trace Adkins. He does a lot of work for The Wounded Warrior Project. He seems like a very kind and caring person.  I have grown to like a lot of his music as well. He has a very beautiful voice.  The lyrics to Honky Tonk Badonkadonk are humorous.  In my opinion.  However, it is not a song I want on repeat in my head.  I have had more annoying songs as earworms in the past.  One being “The Hokey pokey” Haha. That is really bad. I found myself actually moving my arms around. etc.  Embarrassing! Huge music fan. Don’t mind an earworm, if it is a good one that doesn’t stay too long. Smile     https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vNVguvNE7qc

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soul searching

What exactly does that mean?  I think it means an internal search for what is important in our lives.  It makes us think about the purpose of life and what is most important to us. Life events sometimes motivate us to search our souls.

July 18, 2014, was a dark day for the Hammond/Parker families. My daughter Erin was carrying triplets. It was a risky pregnancy and I was fearful of this outcome.  She had a set of MoMo twins and has a Fraternal. MoMo twins are rare. They share a sac, and have a high risk of damaging the cord with movement or tangling.  However, upon a visit to the doctor for ultrasound they found the twin’s hearts had stopped.  The Fraternal, known as Baby A, was doing fine. I am praying, and asking for prayers, that he/she continues to thrive.  It is so hard for a mother to endure something like this.  I can also tell you it is not easy at all for the mother of that mother either.  It pierced my heart. Her dad was heartbroken as well.

So, why was I talking about Soul searching?   Well, I have had to dig deep into my soul for strength to get through this. Sorting out my grief. Grieving is a process.   There will be advice from so many people. Well meaning. People trying to help. I will have to take it in that spirit.

We will hear “Everything happens for a reason”.  Although we feel in our heart there could be no reason.  Right now none of that makes sense.  I personally,  do not like that line. (See my blog,  http://bhplayon.wordpress.com/2013/12/06/everything-happens-for-a-reason/)  I’m sure some will say it’s better this way. Are you serious?  They have no idea how special those babies were to us. From the moment you learn of their existence, and then actually see them on the ultrasound pictures. It is so very real. Embedded in your heart. These babies were our family.   We had hopes and dreams for them!   It is not better!    The best thing anyone can do is just be there and listen.  If  you have not been in this situation you wouldn’t know.

Yes, I do believe we should soul search and realize our blessings.  What I am so grateful for at this time is little Baby A is still thriving.  This is something for which my heart is so overflowing with thankfulness.  In my soul-searching I realize the people in our lives are what is important. In a flash they could be gone.  Being thankful for blessings and realizing what I have….more often than crying over what I have not.  YES, Praise GOD, A baby has survived. And that in itself is a miracle. How thankful I am for this!  Beyond words!  I am going to really love the people in my life. Think positively and pray.   Love never fails.

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Some days you’re the Windshield, Some days You’re the Bug

I’m the Bug today. 7;16/14, I was awaken at four something with excruciating pain in my heel. I think it is Plantars Fasciitis.  Dennis had it once and we are very familiar with the symptoms.  Stretching can help.  So  I got up, stretched.  Made my coffee, had some cereal.  I usually watch music shows or videos early morning.  I turned to CMT and  “Dukes of Hazzard” are on. Are they serious?  They took off my videos in the morning to air those re-runs? UGH!!!

I fed our dogs. My dog Pinky, stepped on my pinky and it really hurt, I thought it was bleeding, but it wasn’t. I came upstairs and got ready for my bike ride. My tire is a little low, but I am going anyway!  I got to the end of the driveway and I was really cold.  I’m not complaining.  I enjoy it, but I’m wearing a tank top so I turned  around and got a jacket out of my car…..and my sunglasses.

In Moreland, you can ride your bike early in the morning or go on a walk, and sometimes you will not see a soul! Not even meet a car in the road!  I was so eager for social interaction I nodded an waved at a rolled up rug sitting on a rocker on someone’s porch! HA  As I rode down  Church street I saw an old truck turn on the road. I never go to the end of Church street because of the little dog that follows me. So as the truck was coming up on me. I signaled and got in the other lane to turn into the tennis courts and head home. As I was getting over the truck slowed and an old codger hung his head out the window.   With his tobacco stains going from his mouth to his chin, he yells, “ HEY, ya supposed to stay over here, you drive that thang  just like you was driving a car!”  This burns me up, and I want to retaliate. But I say in a normal tone, “I know the freaking rules.”  I turn and head back to the house and I’m fuming!  Wishing now I had yelled that to him instead!  I know I should not let this Goomer ruin my day. I am out to get a workout to start my day. It is a positive thing. I AM NOT going to let him spoil this!

So when I got back home. I took my phone out to check my distance. I could not go five miles like I had planned because my tire was getting very low.  I had gone a little over 3 miles.  But hey, I have a crack in my phone! How did that happen. I haven’t dropped it! Seriously! I paid $25. for tempered glass..  and It still cracked!  I am careful with it. I do not know how that got there. But it will be $99,00 to send it through insurance and have it replaced. And when the new phone gets her I guess I’ll break down and get bike map (2)a Otterbox.

The rest of the day was not spectacular, but not horrendous.  I guess I have had worse days.  But it is always good to have a good old vent session. I love having this venue for that reason. Smile

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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